9 Tips to Overcome Procrastination and Boost Your Confidence – Part 1

by @elioverbey

Have you ever wanted to get healthier and not been able to get started or started but not been able to stay with it?

Meet Francine, a small business owner, author, wife, mother, effective communicator, and spiritual seeker. She had solid relationships with her clients, friends and family.

There was that one area of her life that kept her frustrated because she could not get started or if she started she could not stay with it.

The doctor told her if she lost 15 pounds she would feel better, have more energy, and help her heart be healthier.  Part of her knew he was right and part of her believed she would be on the road of endless sacrificing. She just wanted to be thinner without giving up the foods that she loved.

Francine had talked about dieting but never actually made the changes that would make her happier and, healthier. She always said she would start next Monday. When next Monday arrived, she would procrastinate by finding other activities to keep her too busy to pay attention to her health.

Everyone procrastinates on something. It’s important to recognize that Francine and you are not alone, procrastination is normal, and there are strategies you can embrace to get through it.

In fact, procrastination is so common that strategies have been tested and proven. Here are the top nine tips to overcome procrastination.

Tip #1-  Give it Five or Ten Minutes

With this strategy, the objective is to spend five or ten minutes doing the task that you’ve been avoiding. The logic is that you can endure five minutes of anything.

If Francine could get started for 5 or 10 minutes she would be able to increase her time and find success.

Set yourself up for success by making a list of difficult things you have done or situations you’ve gotten through in five or 10 minutes.

Start each sentence with, “If I can _______ for 5 minutes, I can (insert task action) for 5 minutes. Repeat these to yourself as often as needed.

If you’ve been avoiding cleaning off your desk, spend five minutes on the task. That’s it. When the five minutes is up, you are free and clear to stop working on the task.

Of course, most often, once you get into doing something, you can continue. You’ll probably finish cleaning off that desk.

Tip #2 –  Find Your Why

Why are you procrastinating? There is often an underlying reason. Sure, maybe you just don’t like doing the task. But maybe there is another, deeper, reason behind your procrastination.

For example, a writer may procrastinate on the last chapter of their book because they’re afraid of feedback, rejection from editors, or the revision process.

Dig deep and try to figure out why you are procrastinating. Then, you’ll be able to face the project head on.

Tip # 3 –  Work on Your Self-Discipline

The truth is that you can benefit from a little more self-discipline. You probably don’t push yourself as much as you might. You don’t stick to the task, and you give up too easily – not all the time, but probably more than you’d like. So, start working on your self-discipline.

For example, you might run for one minute longer or eat one more serving of vegetables. Wake up 15 minutes earlier to make one more phone call each day. Start learning to push yourself just a little bit harder.

It’ll overlap into all areas of your life and you’ll be able to accomplish that project you’ve been dreading and avoiding.

Tip #4 – Set Realistic Goals

One of the biggest reasons that people avoid some projects, goals, or tasks is because they simply expect too much from themselves. They’re unrealistic.

A common example is the weight loss goal. “I’m going to lose 15 pounds this month,” sounds great on paper. It’s specific and it is time bound.

But is it realistic? Not really. Sure, it’s possible to lose that much in a month but it would require tremendous discipline, a great plan, and no mistakes.

Something that might be more realistic is “I’m going to lose a pound a week by cutting 500 calories out of my diet and walking for 20 minutes a day.”

This makes the plan feel more achievable and you’re less likely to procrastinate.

When setting goals for yourself, make sure you feel 80-90% confident you can achieve the goals you set for yourself.

You can do this, see strategies 5 through 9 in Part 2 – Read Part 2 Here

Nancy Dadami is a Feng Shui Specialist, Creatively Fit Coach, and Artist. She teaches open-minded people to live in “the flow” and align with their Inner Magnificence so they can build confidence, magnetize what they want, and thrive as their authentic self in the world”.

Stop Missing The Messages From The Art In Your Home

by @elioverbey

How does one choose art that beautifies your home and is aligned with your intentions? Have you considered what messages your subconscious mind is receiving from the art in your home?

The artwork in your home has power. It radiates subtle energy into your space, bathing you continuously in messages present in the art. From the intentions of the artist who created it, to your intention in buying it, plus the messages present in the images in the art. Those intentions and images are emitting energy into your home. Is that energy positive, supportive and uplifting or is it negative, unhappy and draining?

If you have blank walls you are missing a great opportunity to fortify what you want.

Looking with Feng Shui eyes is a way of seeing beyond what is visible to your eye. It is a way of looking at the subtle meaning of an item or the energy radiating from it into your home.

Once I had a painting of two swans that hung in my living room.  I originally bought the painting because I like swans. I did not know about Feng Shui eyes then. I just liked swans and the picture was the right color and size for the space.

The swans were facing each other with their chests puffed up almost touching. It was as if they were posturing, each one trying to be the dominant swan, daring the other to back down.

When I began looking at the painting with Feng Shui eyes I realized the painting was about conflict, trying to muscle someone into submission and over powering them. None of those qualities I wanted flowing through my home or my life.  At that time my relationship was filled with conflict and a bully who wanted to control me. That painting had to go, and fast.

Ask yourself these questions when you look with Feng Shui eyes?

  • Why do I have this piece of art in my home?
  • What drew me to this art?
  • Look at the images in the art. If no images what are the dominant shapes and colors?
  • How does the art make me feel? Happy, sad, peaceful, stressed, etc.
  • What messages do I see from the images and colors in this art?
  • Does this art reflect my intentions for my life?

The art you choose to hang in your home matters. It transmits energy to you and fills your space with the message of the art, and the intentions of the artist. The message is either supportive to your life force or draining your precious energy.

You decide what messages and subtle energies your art brings to your space by looking with Feng Shui eyes. Either way your space is pulsing with the messages and energies of the art. You are a receiver of that energy, just like an antenna receives a radio signal.

Nancy Dadami is a Feng Shui Specialist, Creatively Fit Coach, and Artist. She teaches open-minded people to live in “the flow” and align with their Inner Magnificence so they can build confidence, magnetize what they want, and thrive as their authentic self in the world”.

5 Manifesting Facts You Need to Know

by @elioverbey

What do you really want that you have not manifested, yet? Is it a loving partner, financial freedom, radiant health, or a meaningful career?

Somehow your desires seem stalled even though you have invested your precious time and energy trying to manifest your goal.

You might think if you work harder and longer, sacrificing time for yourself that you will reach your goal.

Manifesting Facts You Need to Know

Fact #1 – Manifesting is happening all the time, even when you are not aware of it. That’s right, your thoughts drive the direction of your manifestations. Like attracts like. When you are happy, generous, creative, trusting or loving you will attract more experiences that make you feel that way. The same is true for fear, worry, anger, anxiety, unfairness, or jealousy. You will attract more experiences that reflect those thoughts.

“Either way you are manifesting exactly those experiences that you focus upon.”

Fact #2 – Your feelings matter because they are like beacons calling in experiences to match those dominant feelings. If you want to manifest financial freedom, your worries about not having enough money sabotage your efforts at creating your financial freedom. You would be better off spending time feeling the joy that being financially free would give you. If you want more happiness, you ought to think about happy times, places and things. Spend time remembering joy filled times and you will have more joy filled experiences in the future. It is important to feel your feelings, just don’t get stuck there. You create a powerful magnetism to what you want when you spend 64 seconds focused on what you want.

Fact #3- Your environment matters because it tells your manifesting a story. Your space gives clues about your successes, your struggles, your feelings and your beliefs.

How does that work you might ask? It is all about “the flow” in your space. When “the flow” is moving smoothly you are supported and uplifted, making manifesting your desires easier. When you have clutter and broken items in your space “the flow” is restricted which drains you and makes manifesting what you want more difficult.

Feng Shui principles help you create “the flow” you need to manifest what you desire.

Fact #4 – “Flow” within yourself matters because it impacts your energy field. You have an energy field around you, close to your body that holds energy of what you think, feel, believe and desire. When you are in “the flow” you experience ease, intuition, wisdom, creative ideas, and synchronicity which helps you manifest what you want

Your energy field also holds thoughts about the projects you are working on, fears, worries, expectations, feelings about your family, spouse, boss, friends, money, health and relationships.

When we interact with others we add some of our energy into their energy field.

Others fill our energy field too when they interact with us. It happens when they think about us, talk about us, have feelings about us (positive and negative) or when they judge us or try to control us.

When your energy field is filled with worry, fear, anxiety, stress confusion or energy from others manifesting your desires is challenging.

Fact #5 – You can clear your energy field and make more room for “flow” and manifesting.  When your energy field is cleared regularly more of YOU shows up, without distractions, ready to create the life you want. Everything is a choice, you can believe it is possible to learn to clear your personal energy field, so you can have more of what we want, or you don’t. Remember you are manifesting all the time even when you are not aware of it.

Learning to clear your personal energy field is one of the most important gifts you can give yourself in these challenging times. The state of your energy field is one of the most powerful components of getting in the driver’s seat on the road to manifesting your dreams.

 

Nancy Dadami is a Feng Shui Specialist, Creatively Fit Coach, and Soul Flow Artist. She teaches creatives, spiritual seekers and small business owners to live in “the flow”, clear their energy field and align their surroundings with their intentions so they create the business and life they want.

What Everyone Ought To Know About Their Inner Critic

by @elioverbey

Think of a time when your inner voice was very critical of you for something

  • Not knowing what you want
  • Not being able to make a decision
  • You Ignore taking action that you know is going to help you get to your goals
  • You feel paralyzed by fear and can’t take action

Meet your inner critic. The Inner Critic is a powerful force within that tries to keep you from changing, even if you want to. Change brings uncertainty and with uncertainty comes fear. The Inner Critic uses fear as fuel to keep you feeling small, overwhelmed and confused.

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