This is a question I get asked often, “Where is the best place in my home to keep ashes of a deceased pet or person?” Most people are surprised by my answer.
Your home tells a story about you. As a Feng Shui Detective, I read the energy of you, your floor plan, and your space for clues to the problems you are experiencing.
Here is a recent case.
The phone rang it was Kim, asking about possible reasons her house was not selling. There was beauty in every room, the floorplan flowed nicely between rooms, It had been professionally staged, and it had a great area for a home office.
Dozens of people had toured Kim’s house and yet there were no offers. Kim did not want to lower the price again. Real estate was hot in the area and most houses had multiple offers. Why not Kim’s.
I knew it had something to do with the energy flow in her home.
During the consultation, I discovered Kim’s home had areas of yin (slow-moving) energy. Her personal energy was slow-moving too due to her stress and frustration from lookers but no offers on her home.
The detective in me was looking for clues, energy clues to solve this problem. Energy is constantly moving throughout you and your space. The energy keeps moving and must flow smoothly to support your happiness and well-being.
When energy flow slows down or gets stuck you can experience loss of vitality or money, communication problems, illness, or a sense of being blocked from moving forward.
There was too much slow-moving (yin) energy in Kim’s home. I also noticed that her personal energy (chi) was low.
She was selling the home where she raised her children, built a life with her husband, and nursed him through his final days.
Although she wanted to start a new part of her life she was also trying to let go and process the time spent in her home with her family.
It had been ten years since her husband’s passing and Kim kept his ashes in a special place in her home.
Although she wanted to start a new part of her life she was also trying to let go and process the time spent in her home with her family.
Ashes contain no life force energy because the person or pet is not present anymore. Ashes are extremely yin which translates into minimal or no energy movement in the area where they are stored.
Here are some situations I have witnessed with ashes being stored inside the home.
Ashes stored in the wealth area may be experienced as a loss of your resources, few income opportunities, or a fear of not having enough.
When ashes are stored in the health area people have health issues such as depression, diabetes, high blood pressure, or cancer.
Ashes stored in the relationship area of your home may be experienced as an increase in arguing with your partner, trouble communicating with family, and a decrease in desire to socialize.
When you look at the Feng Shui Bagua template you see the nine areas of life and one or more may be impacted by ashes being kept there. The 9 areas are:
- Helpful People
- Career, Life Path
- Self Empowerment/ Knowledge
Back to Kim’s problem of selling her house. She had her husband’s ashes stored in the foyer of her home which was in the career and life path area. Kim was selling her home so she could retire and start a new phase of her life.
The placement of her husband’s ashes was draining the energy of her career and life path area, slowing down her retirement and transition to a new life.
What About My Pet’s Ashes
Cindy had her dog’s ashes next to his picture on her dresser. She had a dog biscuit and his favorite collar by his picture. She looked at him every day and thought about how much she missed him.
The dresser was located in the wealth sector of her bedroom. Yes, pet ashes also slow down the flow of energy in the sector they occupy. This is what she was experiencing. She was an entrepreneur making a good living. Cindy was able to pay for her grandson’s music lessons every month. She also treated herself to a massage twice a month. Cindy was also able to save over a thousand dollars a month.
A year after she put her dog’s ashes on her dresser everything began to change. Her income started slowing down, she was not able to save money anymore, Now, she was dipping into her savings every month and watching it dwindle. She was dreading telling her grandson that could not pay for his music lessons anymore. The massages were gone first and now was feeling fearful, depressed, and desperate.
The placement of her dog’s ashes in the wealth sector was stopping the flow of energy to her wealth. The only movement was draining her resources, leaving her in despair.
Where Should Ashes Be?
The best place to keep ashes is in the cemetery. A cemetery is made to hold slow-moving yin energy, your home is not.
When ashes are kept at the cemetery it creates a special place where you and others can visit and pay respects.
What if you can’t bare the thought of moving your loved one to the cemetery?
You may not be ready take your urn and run to the cemetery and leave your loved one’s ashes there.
You must be ready to move the ashes to the cemetery. There are two points to consider:
- The draining energy of the ashes in your home and areas of your life.
- How the move will impact your feelings of grief, sorrow, or guilt.
Check-in with yourself to decide if you are ready, if you move the ashes before you are emotionally willing you may create anxiety or depression for yourself.
You can move the ashes in stages. First move the ashes out of the house, into the garage, a storage shed, or into a place in the yard. Get used to that placement. When you are prepared, move the ashes to the cemetery.
Kim moved her husband’s ashes to the garage and noticed a change in how the energy of the house felt. Not too long after that, she sold her house.
Cindy took some time to move her dog’s ashes to a place in the backyard and noticed a positive shift in her money flow. Her business is booming again and you guessed it she is able to pay for her grandson’s music lessons again.
A Note About Jewelry and Ashes
There are many companies that make necklaces, bracelets, and pendants to carry the ashes of your loved ones. You know now that ashes slow or stop the flow of energy in the area where they are placed. Would you want to slow down the flow of energy in your body near your heart, throat, chest, or arms? My advice do not wear ashes on your body for any reason.
I get asked this question about the best place to keep ashes often. The answer is always in the cemetery. The reactions to that answer are as unique as each person. Some people are ready to move the ashes and others cry and say “I can’t do that”. It is an emotional decision and each person has their own comfort level and timeline to make the change. That is why I explain how energy works so each person can make the best-informed decision for themselves.
The best place to keep ashes is in the cemetery for your greatest long-term happiness and well-being.
Nancy Dadami is a Flow Recovery Specialist, Feng Shui Expert, and an Artist. She teaches empaths, authors, artists, and healers how to get better flow faster, tap into their inner magnificence and create a life of beauty, self-awareness, and peace of mind.
Have you noticed the change in energy as the year of the Metal Ox began on February 12th?
Do you remember Star Wars and the famous quote “May the force be with you”? We are experiencing a change in “The Force” as the Metal Ox takes his place on the throne this year. A new King is in town. The Force is an energy shift to another way of being.
Everything is energy and everything is connected according to Albert Einstein. If that is true then your thoughts can transmit energy to other people, places, or things. That is how energy healing or virtual space clearings work. The energy is sent with “The Force” to do a specific job.
Watch the video below to learn what “The Force” is for this year and discover how to increase your success and peace of mind.
I have noticed more feelings of peace, possibility, and excitement to try something new. I am in the process of choosing my next adventure. It could be diving into vegan cooking with a gluten-free twist, practicing my intuitive readings with people to keep my skills sharp, learning to create new garments from clothing that is larger than my normal size, or playing with stencils to create an art journal. Maybe I will make a video on how to use a pendulum to get guidance or do a 30 challenge on using the I-Ching for myself. I am close to making a decision on which one to begin first.
Nancy Dadami is a Feng Shui Expert, Creatively Fit Coach, and Soul Flow Artist. Her passion is to mentor explorers, conscious creators, and visionaries called to expansion, education, and freedom.
Alice had a difficult year last year filled with fear for her health, anger about not being able to see her family, and general negativity about her finances.
When the energy in your home is not aligned with your desires it can be overwhelming. If the energy in your home is negative or stagnant it will impact all areas of your life including your peace of mind. wealth, passion, health, and your good fortune.
The energy within you also influences your mindset, health, and good fortune. What do you do for yourself that uplifts you? Do you spend time in nature, move your body, eat healthy foods, or meditate?
Chinese New Year brings an opportunity for a new beginning, the time is ripe for change.
This year Chinese New Year begins on February 12th. In addition to choosing positive thoughts, you can prepare by implementing the Chinese New Year secrets below.
It is believed that what you do on New Year’s Day sets the tone for your entire year. Do you want happiness, prosperity, good health, and peace of mind? Then it is time to do something that makes you feel that way on February 12th. Spend time in nature, move your body, listen to music, engage in a creative project. It is a time to celebrate, enjoy yourself, and hold a positive vision for the year ahead. Avoid activities that you do not want more of in the new year such as arguing, making clutter, and ignoring your desires
Here are the 10 Chinese New Year Secrets to Good Fortune
Do These Before New Year’s Day
Secret # 1 – Make way for something new by clearing clutter and cleaning your SPACE so fresh opportunities and Good Fortune can find you. If your space is messy and cluttered there is no room for your good fortune to land.
Check the clutter in your home, purse, wallet, computer, files, car, and office. Clean your refrigerator of expired foods, old meats or produce, and wipe the shelves and drawers.
Clean your windows and mirrors.
Secret # 2 – Make sure all the trash and recycling are emptied on New Year’s Eve not on New Year’s Day. The activities that you do on New Year’s Day set the tone for the coming year and you do not want to spend the entire year taking out the trash, right?
Secret # 3 – Wear something new that is red for good fortune. It could be a bracelet, ribbon, a shirt, or something hidden like underwear.
Secret # 4 – Pay off as many of your debts as possible and all your current bills in full. This sets the intention of being debt free in the New Year
Secret # 5 – Fill your pantry and refrigerator with healthy and delicious foods to affirm longevity and vibrant health.
Secret # 6 – Oranges and tangerines are symbols for abundant happiness. Display them in a bowl or tray on your dining table or in your kitchen. When you place them feel yourself being abundantly happy.
Secret # 7 – Bring flowers into your home. Flowers are believed to be symbolic of wealth and high positions in one’s career. Flowers elevate the energy flow in your space bringing good vibes to you. Often you will see potted blooming chrysanthemum in the stores at Chinese New Year time. A fresh bouquet of your favorite flowers is great too.
Secret # 8 – Treat yourself to a new purse or wallet and fill it with cash.
Secret # 9 – Feed the birds, they symbolize the bringing of “good news” and they lift the happiness chi around the house or office. If you don’t have a bird feeder you can put birdseed on the ground in a place where you can see the birds eating.
Secret # 10 – On New Year’s Eve open the front door to let out all last year’s energy and all that goes with it. Ring bells to remove any negative energy as you usher it out the front door. Next, invite in the Good Fortune of the New Year to enter your home.
You can choose to do the secrets that you believe will have the most impact for you first. If you feel overwhelmed by everything on this list remember it is about progress not perfection.
Alice is starting today with secret #1 because she believes clearing clutter will open the pathway for all she wants to find her this year.
Your thoughts and actions impact your Good Fortune now and in the future. You have a chance to join Alice in preparing for the new year and your Good Fortune by implementing one or all of the secrets.
Wishing you a year of Good Fortune.
Nancy Dadami is a Flow Recovery Specialist, Feng Shui Expert, and an Artist. She teaches empaths, authors, artists, and healers how to get better flow faster, tap into their inner magnificence and create a life of beauty, self-awareness, and peace.
I am thinking of you as the holidays are upon us. We are all being asked to sacrifice our traditional celebrations and I am wondering how that is impacting you. Your thoughts, conversations, and your feelings.
Sometimes your mindset is “Yes, I can do this”. Other times feelings may surface that lead you to fear, anger, and worry. I know it is important to allow ourselves to feel our feelings. I also know I cannot get stuck in a negative or poor mindset.
We each have to search within and find something that makes us feel happy no matter what is happening around or within us.
What have you been doing to help yourself be happy during these challenging times?
Are you listening to or playing music, writing your book, learning how to cook new foods, spending time in nature, and my favorite, a Soul Flow painting practice.
That is why I am sharing a message and my latest painting with you in the video below. You will receive the gifts the Happy Buddha offers just by looking at the video.
I am currently taking an advanced Feng Shui Course from my Feng Shui Master and I am reminded of the two parts of Feng Shui. One part is adjusting the energy/chi of your surroundings and the other is adjusting the energy/chi within you. When both the outside environment and the inner environment have aligned your ability to overcome obstacles and create better health, prosperity, passion, and peace is turbo-charged.
Gazing at the Happy Buddha painting is a form of adjusting the energy/chi within you. Let this video give you a chi adjustment towards more happiness.