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Mindset Secret #2 – Develop A Growth Mindset

January 7, 2019 by @elioverbey

Michelle was in her forties when she felt like she was missing something and realized she was unhappy with her life. She was living the life she dreamed of when she was twenty, and she was disappointed. Michelle had:

beautiful home on a lot surrounded by nature with a gourmet kitchen and a view of the valley below
a fulfilling marriage to a man that was her best friend and lover
two busy teenage children active in sports and school activities. She adored them
a dog named Barney that ran to greet her every time she came through the front door

But what Michelle didn’t know was that she was stuck in a rut.

Each day was the routine that never varied, she drove the same route to work, ate the same quick meals, and went home to have the same evening schedules and conversations with her family.

She was going through the motions of what she thought was a happy life.

When she overheard someone at work talking about a “growth mindset”, she did a Google search and realized that’s what she’d been missing.

“I was being so careful to do everything right, to color inside the lines. But when I heard about growth mindset, I knew that’s what my life was lacking—growth.

I had stopped trying new things and experimenting.” “My life had become predictable nothing new, no challenges, no expansion, and no passion.

What Is a Growth Mindset?

A growth mindset is the belief that even though you may not have certain qualities, you can develop them through learning and practice. It is seeing your possibilities from a positive perspective.

If you have a growth mindset, you might think things like, “If I practice my painting skills, I can get better at creating art.” Or you might say, “I can learn to meditate if I take a class about it.” Or you sign up for the belly dancing class you always thought about taking.

The beauty of a growth mindset is that it gives you freedom.

You’re free to try new things, experiment, and study the results.

With a growth mindset, the outcome of a situation doesn’t become your identity.

How Can You Lean into a Growth Mindset?

Developing a growth mindset doesn’t mean that you must do something radical like sell all your possessions and move halfway across the world.

A growth mindset is more about staying open to new experiences and new people.

It can be as simple as a willingness to try a hip-hop dance class at your local gym, change your comfortable routines, and seek out new relationships with people who are different from you.

What If You Surprised Yourself?

Michelle surprised herself by signing up for acting classes. She’d always loved musicals and she liked the idea of performing in front of a crowd. So, she gave it a try and found it uplifting.

The classes had a benefit she hadn’t counted on either—increased confidence. She felt bold and empowered again.

This helped her lead more effective presentations at work and within a few months, her boss promoted her.

Of course, not every surprise has been wonderful. Michelle also signed up for a knitting group. “I loved the people there, but I quickly discovered that knitting wasn’t my thing. Still, I’m glad I was willing to give the experience a try.”

How open are you to new experiences and people? Here is something I do each month. Give it a try.:

get a blank 8 1/2 x 11-inch piece of paper
place it in front of you in the horizontal position
make 3 equal columns
at the top of the first column write What I am Doing
in the middle column write What I should be Doing
in the last column write What I want to be Doing

Give yourself some quiet time to write in each column. You will be surprised as you find clarity and awareness about your growth mindset.

A growth mindset is a wonderful way to go through life. It means embracing the unknown and being willing to take risks, even when it feels a little bit scary (and fun!).

You can read Mindset Secret #1 Here

You may also be interested in What Are You Saying Yes To?

If you know someone that would benefit from this article, please forward it to them.

Nancy Dadami is a Flow Specialist, Creatively Fit Coach, and Intuitive, teaching you how to get Better Flow Faster so you can live a life you love.

Help For Cravings – It Is Easier Than You Think

November 9, 2018 by @elioverbey

Do you ever have cravings? You know those thoughts that keep nagging you about something that will not go away until you give in. It happens to all of us, so you are not alone. Where does that craving come from?

Your words, whether thoughts or spoken are like magnets attracting those very words to you. Watch the video and see if you get insights to help you quiet or stop your cravings. Your words matter.

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3 Ways Feng Shui Helps You Say Yes To What You Want

October 15, 2018 by @elioverbey

What are you saying yes to? Growing your business, building wealth, creating more fulfilling relationships, living a healthy lifestyle, focusing on personal growth, peace of mind, or living a life with meaning.

You can have whatever you say yes to. But there is a secret and that is what I want to share with you here. I discovered the secret on my way to opening to my yes.

This is the thing we trick ourselves into thinking we are creating a healthy lifestyle, growing our business, or creating more fulfilling relationships.

But what is really happening is, we are saying yes to whatever we are doing.

Your Yes is what you do, not what you think you do or what you imagine you do.

For example, I said I wanted a healthier lifestyle, yet instead of meditating I turned on my computer to check social media first thing in the morning. Instead of exercising I would get involved writing an article, calling clients or creating products. I often chose (notice past tense) chocolate, cookies or potato chips for a snack instead of fruit or nuts. By doing those activities before my most important Yes, which is me, I forgot to take care of me. All that other “stuff” became my yes.

My awareness led me to realize I was not living the healthy lifestyle I wanted.

What you are doing is your yes. You are doing your yes.

Right now, my most important Yes, is to live a healthy life. There are choices to make that align with that desire.

For me a healthy lifestyle includes meditating, exercising and eating healthy foods. It also includes writing because when I write I get thoughts from my chattering mind onto paper where I learn more about myself.

I am saying yes to painting because when I paint I shift my vibration into a higher place. I enter the quiet place of my Soul self and become one with the paint and canvas. It is as if I show up at the front of the canvas and my Soul shows up at the back of the canvas where a dance begins.

I am also saying yes to creativity because that is where the yes lives. In the stillness where we connect with our intuition and guidance. The place where creative solutions are born. Where we release limiting beliefs and say yes to what it is we want

What is it that you are saying yes to? Not sure, look at what you are doing and your yes will be revealed to you.

You are in charge of your yes.

You get to decide what you want and what you do.

Your thoughts and beliefs are a part of your choices. Sometimes your thoughts limit your potential and possibilities.

Your thoughts are either positive and uplifting or they are negative and draining to you. Those thoughts live within you and are also present in your surroundings.

Just as a picture is drawn by an artist, surroundings are created by the activities of the mind…. Buddha

3 Ways Feng Shui Can Help

Here are 3 ways to open to your yes and create the life you want using Feng Shui Principles.

#1 – Energy space clearing which uplifts the energy in your surroundings and fills your space with light, positivity and possibilities.

The clearing releases the energy of all the people that have lived, worked or visited your space, their fears, anger, depression or communication problems. It also releases spirits there that may feel stuck between heaven and earth, and energies in your surroundings that may be holding you back. You will be able to feel the difference; your space will be peaceful. One client said she felt like she had been on a wonderful vacation after an energy space clearing. She was happy, relaxed and more confident

#2 – Feng Shui consultation which aligns your surroundings with your intentions. Boosts your confidence, clarity and courage to go for what you want. Creates more ease and flow in your life. A floor plan reading reveals where energy is not flowing, causing you to struggle. You receive Feng Shui adjustments personalized for your situation. Your surroundings are infused with your deepest desires.

#3 – Combination of both an Energy Space Clearing and a Feng Shui Consultation which clears negative energy and spirits from your home and fills it with light, love and peace. Add a Feng Shui Consultation and you align your space with your intentions and fill your surroundings with your sincere dreams and desires.

How are you planning to open to your yes? Awareness is the first step. The next step is to take positive action to manage the energy of your surroundings to free you up to go for your dreams and desires.

Nancy Dadami is a Feng Shui Specialist, Creatively Fit Coach, and Artist. She teaches artists, writers, coaches and healers to arrange their surroundings to support their vision, so they live in “the flow” and manifest their intentions.

Soul Flow Art for Transformation and Freedom

August 10, 2018 by @elioverbey

The Secret Manifesting Formula That You Need To Know

August 10, 2018 by @elioverbey

Photo by Tyler Nix on Unsplash

I woke up one morning and I knew I had to do something differently.

I was tired of being alone.

I didn’t know what to do.

And I knew I had to make a change. I believe if you want something different you must do something different.

It had been long enough since I used the excruciating pain of the divorce as a fortress protecting me from being vulnerable and trusting another.

The cost of feeling safe was too high – The price was loneliness.

Sometimes you must wait to be ready. You can’t hurry into a change. I know what you are thinking. Nancy, sometimes I get thrown into a change that I don’t feel ready for. Yes, that does happen, and the change unfolds at its’ own pace, whether it is a choice or a circumstance.

The Manifesting Formula To The Rescue

It is all about getting in the flow and setting your manifesting course. Creating what you want is simple when you get into and maintain Flow.

This process connects and aligns your body, mind and spirit with your intention. My body, mind and spirit were operating like a run-away train, moving toward more loneliness and stress. More about this alignment process later.

Step #1 – Dream until you know what you want. Grab your journal, put on some soothing music, meditate, and begin writing. Let what you want flow onto the paper. I am talking details here.

I wrote a 3-page list of all the qualities I wanted in a partner. From good sense of humor, respectful, compassionate, honest communicator, to someone who was into personal development and growth. I kept adding to this list for more than a week. Oh, yes, I want to include this too a healthy person, from a loving family, a career that he loves, and a positive lifestyle.

You can do this too. Start dreaming about what you want, just start writing about it in as much detail as you can imagine

You are free -flowing your ideas. No filter on what comes up. Write them down. When you see what you want written down you begin to paint the picture of your desire.

You are the artist of your life – what do you want to paint on your life’s canvas?

Step #2 – Refine your list. Eliminate some items and clarify others. You might discover something new you want to add to the list and picture you are creating.

Write your list in a positive way, incorporating what you want not what you don’t want. An example I am happy with my new partner, not I don’t want a relationship that makes me feel upset.

I took that original 3-page list and combined some ideas while eliminating others. I focused on what my “must haves” in a partner.

Step #3 – Putting it all together – the body, mind and spirit

The goal here is to connect and align the body with the mind and with the spirit.

The Mind is about your mindset. Think about what you want. You must believe beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are manifesting what you want no matter what is happening around you.

Hold the belief that it is on its way and stay focused. When you get off track by life, bring yourself back to your vision of what you want. If you slide off track again, tell yourself to get back to your vision. Keep doing that every time you get sidetracked from what you want.

You are creating a new way of thinking by believing in your dream. It takes practice. The more you do it the easier it gets.

I knew my ideal partner was on his way to me. When I wavered, I pulled myself back to my belief and focused on the joy that was coming to me.

The Spirit is about your feelings. Your feelings come from a deep place within that is connected to your inner guidance and Soul.

When you are quiet enough to connect to those feelings, believing it is simple.

Imagine the feelings you will have when you manifest your dream. Is it joy, happiness, generosity, peace, love, excitement, passion and beyond?

Let yourself bask in those feelings, allowing the feelings to permeate every cell in your body.

Positive feelings enhance flow and help connect your body and your mind with your spirit.

What do you do if your feelings go negative? Feel them, let them pass through and move back to your vision.

I spent time everyday basking in the feelings of my ideal partnership. This is a critical step.

The Body is about movement. When you move you keep the energy/chi moving, creating positive inner flow through your system.

Your inner flow relies on your activities. You can do slow movements like yoga, tai chi, chi gong, stretching, walking and gardening. Faster movements like running, dancing, kick boxing, and riding a bike keep your energy flowing too.

Your body movement connects the mind and spirit creating the manifesting trifecta.

There is a dance going on between the mind, spirit and body all the time. When harmony is created manifesting happens.

Here Is How The Manifesting Formula Worked For Me.

I created my list for the ideal partner
I Refined the list
I use the manifesting trifecta – mind, spirit and body
I placed my list on my home altar

My Results – within 3 months I met my current husband. He had all the qualities on my list. At one point I showed it to him. His comment “This is me, you put in an order for me”.

That is exactly what happened.

It worked for me, I know it can work for you.