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3 Must-Have Qualities To Strengthen Your Relationships

by @elioverbey

Would you say you have close relationships with family, friends, colleagues or community? Do you feel uplifted or happier when you connect or socialize with them? Does a problematic relationship create stress, anger, anxiety or fear for you?

Did you know your relationships can be a health risk factor just like high blood pressure, smoking, alcoholism, lack of exercise and obesity? According to researchers at Brigham Young University, strong social relationships are associated with better health and longevity. It is good for your health and well-being to cultivate strong meaningful relationships.

What Makes A Strong Relationship?

Think about one of your strong relationships. It could be with family, a friend or, a colleague. What do you think makes it strong?

Now reflect on a relationship that is problematic for you. Why do you think it is difficult?

You take who you are into every relationship. What are your core values, personality style, temperament, expectations, wounds from past relationships, and hopes? Who and what are you taking into your relationships?

When you have relationship problems it is crucial that you reflect on who you are and what you are taking into your relationships.

I know you want to point out that the other person in the relationship should look at what they bring to the relationship too and I agree they should. Remember, you have no control over what they do. You only have control and responsibility for what you bring and how you act and communicate.

Here are 3 qualities every relationship must have to grow and thrive. Take time to reflect and ask yourself where you are strong and where you could improve.

3 Qualities Every Strong Relationship Must Have To Grow And Thrive.

#1 is Respect -how you feel about someone and how you treat them. You act in a way that shows you care about their feelings and well-being.

When you have a conversation with someone your words and actions show your true value of them and your relationship.

Communication can be challenging, especially when you are emotional. However, when you respect someone you find a way to communicate that honors who they are and lets you get your point across without anger or criticism.

I had a therapist tell me “When everything is going great relationships are easy. When a problem comes up it is like making tea. You never know what is in the tea bag (relationship) until you put it into hot water.” The hot water brings out the positive and negative aspects of each of us.

If respect is a core value for you and you are respectful to others your relationships can be fulfilling, supportive, and add to your happiness and well-being.

There is no moving forward or connecting at a deep meaningful level without respect.

#2 is Empathy – the ability to understand the thoughts, feelings, and experience of another without judgment. The ability to put yourself in another person’s shoes and see a situation from the other’s perspective.

Have you ever had expectations in a relationship that did not get met? You might have been disappointed or even angry at the person that did not meet your expectations. What do you do with those feelings? How do you resolve your feelings? Where in your life do you disappoint or anger people by not meeting their expectations?

“EXPECTATIONS are the termites of relationships. They can eat away the foundations and you may not know it’s happening until the damage is revealed.”

Empathy puts expectations aside and allows you to view a situation from the perspective of the other. What was the situation like for them? How were they feeling? What struggles do they have with the situation? How did my reaction affect them? 

You can learn how to use empathy by stopping to ask yourself the questions above.

What is it like to see this situation from the other person’s point of view?  Does it help you understand them better? Did you learn a new way to see a situation by looking from another perspective?

Everyone wants to be understood. Empathy is the bridge to understanding.

#3 is Humility – a state of being humble.

I don’t know about you, occasionally I want to be right when having a discussion. As soon as I enter that ‘being right” state I slip out of humility and into pride or arrogance which creates communication, respect, and empathy problems in the conversation and possibly in the relationship.

Being present and fully listening to what another has to say without thinking about what you are going to say next shows respect and humility. You feel heard when someone is fully present as they listen to you.

Humble people do not brag or try to show off their power, skill, or possessions. A humble person does not judge others about what they do or how they act. They display an absence of their own self-importance.

When you are humble in relationships you give others the freedom to trust you and the relationship.

Nobody said relationships would be easy all the time. Yet, when you cultivate respect, empathy, and humility you can build strong meaningful relationships that bring you fulfillment, happiness, good health, and longevity.

Nancy Dadami is an Intentional Flow Strategist, Energy Reader, and Mentor. She teaches smart, strong,  women to understand “the flow” and find peace of mind in their life & business.

Why Tiny Habit Tweaks Create Big Results

by @elioverbey

Crystal wakes up in the morning, her mind racing with a list of the tasks she wants to accomplish that day. She checks her email and social media while she waits for her coffee to brew. Then it is off to work in her home office. Crystal is the kind of person that doesn’t think about her routines or habits.

She wishes she was more productive and healthier. She knows some of her habits are getting in the way of the life she desires. She thinks “if I could just organize my time I would fit everything in.” Crystal knows she should exercise regularly to be healthier but she doesn’t have time in her day for that.

Do you have routines or habits that stop you from living the life you want?

Take a moment and think about your routines and habits. What could you accomplish in a week, a month, or even a year if you created tiny habits today and kept building on them over time?

Trying to make huge changes all at once usually leads to overwhelm or failure because it is hard to make big changes all at once; However by taking small steps with tiny habits toward a bigger goal you realize it is doable, sustainable, and a path to success.

Habits of all kinds–both good and bad–have compounding effects, which means the more you do something, the greater the results.

The more often you lace up those sneakers and get out there, the sooner you’ll achieve better heart health, more energy, and greater motivation to stick with your new habit.

Likewise, the more frequently you eat processed food, drink alcohol, smoke, skip exercising, or partake in other unhealthy habits, the more health problems you’ll have over time.

What is a Tiny Habit?

Tiny habits are those small actions we take every day without thinking about it. Brushing your teeth, checking your email, washing your face, and making your bed. Some of our habits we were taught as kids and others we taught ourselves.

Tiny habits are also quick and easy, sometimes less than two minutes, therefore we don’t even notice them taking up any time out of our day.

Try adding a new tiny habit for 2 minutes a day. In the sneaker example above, certainly you need much more time than two minutes to improve your health benefits; but adding an extra two minutes to your current running/walking workout is negligible. Adding another two minutes the next week you probably still won’t notice. However, if youKeep increasing your time by two minutes and soon enough you’ll be running/walking longer distances.

Adding these small increments of time is sustainable and harmless whereas thinking you can run/walk a 26.2-mile marathon when your current training is only 30-minutes long is simply foolish.  

Every single area of your life can be improved with the help of tiny habits; just do a bit of soul-searching to decide where you want to focus or what specifically needs improving.

Having a goal in mind will lead you in the right direction and these tiny habits will build the processes necessary to reach those goals.

Health

Create a tiny habit to drink more water or to eat more fruits and vegetables daily. Plan to have fresh fruits, vegetables, and bottled water handy. Within a few weeks, your body will be craving more water and preparing produce with meals will become second nature.

You can also create a tiny habit to get more movement. It takes me 2 minutes to lay out my walking clothes, shoes, visor, and sunglasses next to the bed. In the morning, there is no thinking, I jump up, put on my clothes, sneakers and hit the road.

Relationships

You have many types of relationships to choose from here. There is the relationship with yourself, spouse or partner, family, friends, colleagues, clients, community, and world.

Create a tiny habit to reconnect with yourself each morning and throughout the day. You could spend 2 minutes focusing on your breath. It helps you focus and stay present to what you are doing. When I was a high school principal, I would go into the restroom stall (the only place people would not interrupt me) and breathe for 2 minutes to keep me focused and present.

If you have more time, create a tiny habit to spend 10 minutes reconnecting with your spouse/partner at the end of the day. After awhile you will find yourself looking forward to that time of connecting and your relationship will get stronger.

Think of a relationship you want to improve and create your own tiny habit to implement.

Business

Create firm business hours–especially if you work from home. Nobody wants their work to leak into their personal time.

Have you heard of the Pomodoro Technique?  When you can use it you get more done. Studies show that the brain responds better to short sessions with a break away from your work. Try it so you can complete projects or meet deadlines faster.

The Pomodoro Technique is as simple as using a kitchen timer to block off 25-minute increments where you focus on a task until the timer rings. Take a 5-minute break. Get up walk around, refresh your tea, use the restroom, and then reset the timer for the next 25-minute session.

These are just a few ideas; you’re only limited by your own creativity and by what aspect of your life you need to focus on and want to improve.

You can build a big new habit by implementing tiny habits every day.

MOTIVATION Is What Gets You Started.

HABIT Is What Keeps You Going.

~Jim Rohn

Want more help with productivity? Check out this Free Productivity Challenge http://nancyhelps.me/Productivity Challenge offered by Connie Ragen Green, a mentor of mine. I am currently in the challenge and it is making a big difference for me in my personal and professional life.

You might also want to read these articles about mindset:http://nancyhelps.me/Mindset1 and http://nancyhelps.me/Mindset2

Nancy Dadami is a Feng Shui Master by trade, an Artist at heart, and a Teacher from her Soul. She teaches open-minded people to unlock their potential and tap into their Inner Magnificence to live a life of purpose and meaning.

The 6 Flow Controllers Everyone Needs To Know

by @elioverbey

Your home tells a story about you. Yes, you heard me right. It tells a story about your financial situation, your relationships or lack of them, it tells a story about your health, family, career, and your children.

How does that happen? It is all about flow and energy.

What is happening in your life is reflected in your floor plan. Just like you see a reflection of yourself in the mirror, you can see a reflection of your life in your floor plan

When you look with Feng Shui eyes and the 6 flow controllers you can see the design details that contribute to struggles you have.

In today's video, you will learn the 6 Flow Controllers and how they might be impacting your life.

 

Winston Churchill said, “We create our spaces and then they create us”.

Nancy Dadami is a Feng Shui Practitioner, Soul Flow Mentor, and Intuitive. She teaches creatives, lovers of life, and small business owners to live in “the flow”, so they can create their Life & Business to sync up with their Soul.

 

Everything You Want Is In The Flow State

by @elioverbey

The flow state holds the key to everything you want. Peace of mind, prosperity, fulfilling relationships, a meaningful career, vibrant health & happiness can easily be yours when you dwell in the flow.

What is the Flow State?

The flow state happens when your personal energy vibration, desires, and surroundings are aligned.

Enter the state of flow when you are happy, confident, and creative, everything seems to go smoothly, you are grateful, you can laugh easily, and your thinking is clear.

There is no flow state when you are angry, depressed, worried, confused, and stressed. Or you also feel like everything is difficult, nothing is going your way no matter how hard you try, or you blame others for your circumstances.

Here Are 2 Crucial Concepts From the “Law of Flow”

There is inner flow and outer flow. It is not enough to get your outer surroundings aligned if your inner landscape is cluttered with harmful thoughts, a negative attitude, and limiting beliefs.

Inner Flow

Inner flow is that place where your body, mind, soul, and intuition connect and align.

You influence your inner flow by the food you eat, your exercise routine, your sleeping habits, your thoughts, words, and time for self-care.

The soul appears to be mysterious because it seems to be hidden from you. Yet, it is available for you when you learn to listen to its messages.

Your soul is designed to keep you healthy on all levels, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

It is an intuitive transmitter and is always giving you feedback, even when you are not listening.

Your soul is the loudest, most relentless part of your inner being. It makes you restless about why you are here.

Your desires to matter, mean something to someone and, make a difference are calls from your Soul.

Meditation and self-care routines support your inner flow.

Outer Flow

Outer flow is about energy and your surroundings or environment.

It is about visible energy in your space such as a desk and the invisible energy present like your emotions.

Have you been in a room with someone and you could feel their emotions of love or anger without them having to say anything?

Emotions are present even when no one speaks.  Feelings create an energy vibration in your space that can be felt whether it is uplifting or draining to your flow.

When you move or add items in your surroundings you change outer flow too. Outer flow depends on the alignment of the visible and invisible energies in your spaces, and that is where Feng Shui can be your secret weapon to get your outer flow aligned.

The Flow State

Alignment is what it is all about. Sync up your inner flow with your outer flow and enter the flow state.

You know when the flow is lacking in your life by the way you feel. If you feel fear, worry, hesitation, and warnings about a current situation you are not in the flow.

Intuition speaks to you through your gut feelings. You may recognize it in a toxic relationship, a stressful job, or exhaustion. Intuition gives you clues when something is not quite right.

In the flow messages also come to you from your intuition. Feelings of excitement, comfort, safety, and trust, especially when wondering if you should take on a new project, help a needy friend or stand up for yourself in a relationship. Intuition also gives you clues when something is right.

There are benefits to following the clues to that lead you into your flow state.

Benefits of the  Flow State

  • More freedom, flexibility, and fun
  • Peace of mind
  • More ease and grace
  • Confidence in making the right decisions
  • More of what you want
  • Live a life that matters, has meaning and is fulfilling physically, emotionally & spiritually

When you sync up your life and business with your inner flow and your outer flow you enter the sacred space of the “Flow State”, where everything you want resides.

Another article and video about flow you may find helpful:

Feng Shui and Flow Tips Video

Law of Flow To The Rescue

Nancy Dadami is a Feng Shui Practitioner, Soul Flow Mentor, and Intuitive. She teaches creatives, lovers of life, and small business owners to live in “the flow”, so they can create their Life & Business to sync up with their Soul.

11 Feng Shui Tips To Reduce Stress For The Holidays

by @elioverbey

Does the thought of gathering with your family for the holidays make you stressed, overwhelmed or cranky?  The holidays are supposed to be a time of joy, love, and happy families, but for many people feelings of loneliness, obligation, and stress surface as the holiday season gets underway.

I have talked with several people that are feeling overwhelmed by getting ready for the holidays and family gatherings this year. They are worried about having time to get everything done. The biggest worry seems to be bringing the family together in one place at one time.

Recently, a client asked me for Feng Shui advice to make her holidays with family more enjoyable and less stressful.

Even though many of her family members live in the same town, it seems that they only see one another during the holidays.

Many arrive to her home in a pleasant mood. It is not long until opinions differ, and the silent judgments begin, which is witnessed by the sharp glares and piercing looks in their eyes.

At first, critical comments are spoken softly, almost a whisper, as if no one were listening. Soon the tension builds, the glares get a voice, the volume escalates, people begin positioning themselves for protection or battle.  A new level of discomfort fills the room.

The fighters, visibly angry are looking for an argument. Those seeking protection begin to avoid talking to anyone. Not the happy holidays you wanted.

My client wants to use Feng Shui principles to create a peaceful and cooperative environment in her home.

Your home tells a story about you. What you experience in your life is visible in your home when you look with Feng Shui eyes.

Here is what you need to know to reduce family stress during the holidays.

The Family

One way to reduce family stress during the holidays is to evaluate the “family” area of your home.

There is an area of the Feng Shui Bagua (Feng Shui energy map) that is devoted to family. This area includes current and future family members, family health, family harmony, ancestors, and unresolved family issues.  Let’s look at that area in your home.

The family area is in the middle, left side of your home the items in this area of your home influences your current and future experiences of family.  It is worth a good look around this area.

What do you see there?  Is it your favorite armchair a healthy plant, beautiful art, the extra room that is a catch-all for clutter, or your Feng Shui Vision Board.  What do you feel in that area, happy, tired, depressed, inspired? Whatever you see and feel in that space is part of your family Feng Shui story.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself. What clues do the items in that area tell you about your family:

  • Peace
  • Harmony
  •  Health
  • Cooperation
  • Communication
  • Fun

Look closely at what you see and feel there and give yourself an honest evaluation.

Even one small change, such as clearing clutter makes a difference. It can be what gets the energy moving to transform everything.

Your Intentions

What you think as you anticipate your family gathering influences what you experience because your thoughts set your focus point. Your focus point determines how you see the situation.

As you think about, your holidays what do you think will happen? Do you have a feeling of family togetherness? Is there open communication between family members? Is there a history of holiday chaos?

And the big question, “What do you want?”

Take a few minutes to imagine your family gathering just the way you would like it to be and then visualize it happening that way. This is a powerful first step in creating what you want.

Your intention sets the stage for your actual experience.  Your visualization of that intention happening helps support your vision.

Once in the situation, you make choices based on your focus point and expectations for the gathering.

11 Feng Shui Tips To More Peace Of Mind During The Holidays

This holiday season holds great potential because you can create wonderful memories, have fun, heal old wounds, and feel appreciation for your family.

  1. Decide what you want, in as much detail as possible.
  2. Set an intention, see it happening, feel it as if it has already happened.
  3. Clear any clutter from your home, especially the area of “family” in the bagua. If you only take one action from this list, clearing clutter is by far the most important action you can take. Clutter is the most draining force in any area of the bagua. Wherever I see clutter I know there is a problem in one or more areas of life.
  4. Do one good deed each day.
  5. Take time to fill yourself up. Your giving is much fuller when you give from the place of fullness. What makes you feel recharged? A walk-in nature, listening to music, taking a hot bath, talking to a friend, reading a good book, meditating, going to the gym, or meeting with your Feng Shui Coach.
  6. Decorate the entrance to your home with lights and live plants.
  7. Decorate the inside of your home, especially the “family” area with lights, shiny decorations, live plants, candles, and if you have a Christmas tree the “family” area is a good place to put it.
  8. Use scents of the season, like evergreen boughs, mulled cider, frankincense and myrrh, spices, peppermint, and others that you like.
  9. Energize the house before people arrive by burning incense, offering blessings and prayers, saying your intentions out loud in the room, and play uplifting music, or hire a Feng Shui Consultant to do a house blessing ceremony.
  10. Celebrate and treat yourself to a hot bath, a soothing massage, or a cup of tea. Congratulations on a job well done.
  11. After everyone leaves to release any tension left behind by your guests.  Schedule a Space Clearing with a Feng Shui Consultant to release the energy of 2018 and uplift the space for 2019 to bring you peace of mind, radiant health, and prosperity.

You can have more peace of mind this holiday season by implementing these Feng Shui tips.

Nancy Dadami is a Flow Strategist,  Intuitive  Artist, and Teacher. She teaches creatives, spiritual seekers and small business owners to live in “the flow”, clear their energy field and align their surroundings with their intentions so they create the business and life they love.