11 Feng Shui Tips To Reduce Stress For The Holidays

by @elioverbey

Does the thought of gathering with your family for the holidays make you stressed, overwhelmed or cranky?  The holidays are supposed to be a time of joy, love, and happy families, but for many people feelings of loneliness, obligation, and stress surface as the holiday season gets underway.

I have talked with several people that are feeling overwhelmed by getting ready for the holidays and family gatherings this year. They are worried about having time to get everything done. The biggest worry seems to be bringing the family together in one place at one time.

Recently, a client asked me for Feng Shui advice to make her holidays with family more enjoyable and less stressful.

Even though many of her family members live in the same town, it seems that they only see one another during the holidays.

Many arrive to her home in a pleasant mood. It is not long until opinions differ, and the silent judgments begin, which is witnessed by the sharp glares and piercing looks in their eyes.

At first, critical comments are spoken softly, almost a whisper, as if no one were listening. Soon the tension builds, the glares get a voice, the volume escalates, people begin positioning themselves for protection or battle.  A new level of discomfort fills the room.

The fighters, visibly angry are looking for an argument. Those seeking protection begin to avoid talking to anyone. Not the happy holidays you wanted.

My client wants to use Feng Shui principles to create a peaceful and cooperative environment in her home.

Your home tells a story about you. What you experience in your life is visible in your home when you look with Feng Shui eyes.

Here is what you need to know to reduce family stress during the holidays.

The Family

One way to reduce family stress during the holidays is to evaluate the “family” area of your home.

There is an area of the Feng Shui Bagua (Feng Shui energy map) that is devoted to family. This area includes current and future family members, family health, family harmony, ancestors, and unresolved family issues.  Let’s look at that area in your home.

The family area is in the middle, left side of your home the items in this area of your home influences your current and future experiences of family.  It is worth a good look around this area.

What do you see there?  Is it your favorite armchair a healthy plant, beautiful art, the extra room that is a catch-all for clutter, or your Feng Shui Vision Board.  What do you feel in that area, happy, tired, depressed, inspired? Whatever you see and feel in that space is part of your family Feng Shui story.

Here are a few questions to ask yourself. What clues do the items in that area tell you about your family:

  • Peace
  • Harmony
  •  Health
  • Cooperation
  • Communication
  • Fun

Look closely at what you see and feel there and give yourself an honest evaluation.

Even one small change, such as clearing clutter makes a difference. It can be what gets the energy moving to transform everything.

Your Intentions

What you think as you anticipate your family gathering influences what you experience because your thoughts set your focus point. Your focus point determines how you see the situation.

As you think about, your holidays what do you think will happen? Do you have a feeling of family togetherness? Is there open communication between family members? Is there a history of holiday chaos?

And the big question, “What do you want?”

Take a few minutes to imagine your family gathering just the way you would like it to be and then visualize it happening that way. This is a powerful first step in creating what you want.

Your intention sets the stage for your actual experience.  Your visualization of that intention happening helps support your vision.

Once in the situation, you make choices based on your focus point and expectations for the gathering.

11 Feng Shui Tips To More Peace Of Mind During The Holidays

This holiday season holds great potential because you can create wonderful memories, have fun, heal old wounds, and feel appreciation for your family.

  1. Decide what you want, in as much detail as possible.
  2. Set an intention, see it happening, feel it as if it has already happened.
  3. Clear any clutter from your home, especially the area of “family” in the bagua. If you only take one action from this list, clearing clutter is by far the most important action you can take. Clutter is the most draining force in any area of the bagua. Wherever I see clutter I know there is a problem in one or more areas of life.
  4. Do one good deed each day.
  5. Take time to fill yourself up. Your giving is much fuller when you give from the place of fullness. What makes you feel recharged? A walk-in nature, listening to music, taking a hot bath, talking to a friend, reading a good book, meditating, going to the gym, or meeting with your Feng Shui Coach.
  6. Decorate the entrance to your home with lights and live plants.
  7. Decorate the inside of your home, especially the “family” area with lights, shiny decorations, live plants, candles, and if you have a Christmas tree the “family” area is a good place to put it.
  8. Use scents of the season, like evergreen boughs, mulled cider, frankincense and myrrh, spices, peppermint, and others that you like.
  9. Energize the house before people arrive by burning incense, offering blessings and prayers, saying your intentions out loud in the room, and play uplifting music, or hire a Feng Shui Consultant to do a house blessing ceremony.
  10. Celebrate and treat yourself to a hot bath, a soothing massage, or a cup of tea. Congratulations on a job well done.
  11. After everyone leaves to release any tension left behind by your guests.  Schedule a Space Clearing with a Feng Shui Consultant to release the energy of 2018 and uplift the space for 2019 to bring you peace of mind, radiant health, and prosperity.

You can have more peace of mind this holiday season by implementing these Feng Shui tips.

Nancy Dadami is a Flow Strategist,  Intuitive  Artist, and Teacher. She teaches creatives, spiritual seekers and small business owners to live in “the flow”, clear their energy field and align their surroundings with their intentions so they create the business and life they love.

Why Self-Care Is Critical To Your Well-Being

by @elioverbey

Self-care is important because you put your health and well-being first, before the needs of others. The result is that you show up in the world happier and healthier, and a happier and healthier you is able to help others from a place of fullness rather than obligation.

There really is no limit to what self-care is because it’s all about what you like doing for yourself and your personality that makes you a better person, parent, spouse, sibling, and friend.

Don’t do things you think you need to do or what others say you need to do. Do what you know you love and want.

It doesn’t have to require money or be anything extravagant. Meditate, get up early, read a book, go for a jog, or talk to a friend, are some simple ideas.

Neglecting yourself and putting your needs on the back burner inevitably leads to increased stress which often leads to an unhealthy life.

Self-care needs to be a part of everyone’s personal schedule and shouldn’t be overlooked due to time or because someone believes it is selfish.

Self-care is essential to having a healthy, productive, and happy life.

Self-care is critical because it prevents:

  1. Stress — Most everyone lives with stress in their daily lives but it’s important to try to reduce this as much as possible. Plenty of medical research shows that stress can cause many negative side effects. This includes headaches, low energy, aches and pain, and even insomnia.
  2. Burnout – Burnout is another form of extreme stress that results in physical and emotional exhaustion, negativity, lack of enjoyment and the feeling of hopelessness. Burnout typically happens when people are overworked or during events that you feel you can’t control. Self-care allows you to take a break from these activities that can result in burnout. Even if it’s a simple one-minute break where you just close your eyes and breathe, it will help reduce this type of stress.
  3. Negativity — Putting everyone else’s needs over your own will turn just about anyone negative. The feeling of not being important and that their needs overpower yours is a horrible feeling. The fact is, the more your needs are met the more others needs will be met too. You will experience less bitterness and resentment towards others if you take care of yourself.

If you find yourself at any point feeling stressed, overwhelmed, or just negative towards people stop what you are doing immediately.

You can easily take a few minutes to refocus your mind. Maybe you need to talk to your friends and family for a few minutes or look at a few pictures that make you happy such as babies or cats.

This will allow you to relax and adjust your attitude. You will be amazed at how much more productive you will be if you just put yourself first.

Nancy Dadami is a Flow Strategist,  Intuitive  Artist, and Teacher. She teaches creatives, spiritual seekers and small business owners to live in “the flow”, clear their energy field and align their surroundings with their intentions so they create the business and life they love.

The Secret Manifesting Formula That You Need To Know

by @elioverbey

 

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I woke up one morning and I knew I had to do something differently.

I was tired of being alone.

I didn’t know what to do.

And I knew I had to make a change. I believe if you want something different you must do something different.

It had been long enough since I used the excruciating pain of the divorce as a fortress protecting me from being vulnerable and trusting another.

The cost of feeling safe was too high – The price was loneliness.

Sometimes you must wait to be ready. You can’t hurry into a change. I know what you are thinking. Nancy, sometimes I get thrown into a change that I don’t feel ready for. Yes, that does happen, and the change unfolds at its’ own pace, whether it is a choice or a circumstance.

The Manifesting Formula To The Rescue

It is all about getting in the flow and setting your manifesting course. Creating what you want is simple when you get into and maintain Flow.

This process connects and aligns your body, mind and spirit with your intention. My body, mind and spirit were operating like a run-away train, moving toward more loneliness and stress. More about this alignment process later.

Step #1 – Dream until you know what you want.  Grab your journal, put on some soothing music, meditate, and begin writing. Let what you want flow onto the paper. I am talking details here.

I wrote a 3-page list of all the qualities I wanted in a partner. From good sense of humor, respectful, compassionate, honest communicator, to someone who was into personal development and growth. I kept adding to this list for more than a week. Oh, yes, I want to include this too a healthy person, from a loving family, a career that he loves, and a positive lifestyle.

You can do this too. Start dreaming about what you want, just start writing about it in as much detail as you can imagine

You are free -flowing your ideas. No filter on what comes up. Write them down. When you see what you want written down you begin to paint the picture of your desire.

You are the artist of your life – what do you want to paint on your life’s canvas?

Step #2 – Refine your list. Eliminate some items and clarify others. You might discover something new you want to add to the list and picture you are creating.

Write your list in a positive way, incorporating what you want not what you don’t want.  An example I am happy with my new partner, not I don’t want a relationship that makes me feel upset.

I took that original 3-page list and combined some ideas while eliminating others. I focused on what my “must haves” in a partner.

Step #3 – Putting it all together – the body, mind and spirit

The goal here is to connect and align the body with the mind and with the spirit.

The Mind is about your mindset. Think about what you want. You must believe beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are manifesting what you want no matter what is happening around you.

Hold the belief that it is on its way and stay focused. When you get off track by life, bring yourself back to your vision of what you want. If you slide off track again, tell yourself to get back to your vision. Keep doing that every time you get sidetracked from what you want.

You are creating a new way of thinking by believing in your dream. It takes practice. The more you do it the easier it gets.

I knew my ideal partner was on his way to me. When I wavered, I pulled myself back to my belief and focused on the joy that was coming to me.

The Spirit is about your feelings. Your feelings come from a deep place within that is connected to your inner guidance and Soul.

When you are quiet enough to connect to those feelings, believing it is simple.

Imagine the feelings you will have when you manifest your dream. Is it joy, happiness, generosity, peace, love, excitement, passion and beyond?

Let yourself bask in those feelings, allowing the feelings to permeate every cell in your body.

Positive feelings enhance flow and help connect your body and your mind with your spirit.

What do you do if your feelings go negative? Feel them, let them pass through and move back to your vision.

I spent time everyday basking in the feelings of my ideal partnership. This is a critical step.

The Body is about movement. When you move you keep the energy/chi moving, creating positive inner flow through your system.

Your inner flow relies on your activities. You can do slow movements like yoga, tai chi, chi gong, stretching, walking and gardening. Faster movements like running, dancing, kick boxing, and riding a bike keep your energy flowing too.

Your body movement connects the mind and spirit creating the manifesting trifecta.

There is a dance going on between the mind, spirit and body all the time. When harmony is created manifesting happens.

Here Is How The Manifesting Formula Worked For Me.

  • I created my list for the ideal partner
  • I Refined the list
  • I use the manifesting trifecta – mind, spirit and body
  • I placed my list on my home altar

My Results – within 3 months I met my current husband. He had all the qualities on my list. At one point I showed it to him. His comment “This is me, you put in an order for me”.

That is exactly what happened.

It worked for me, I know it can work for you.

9 Tips to Increase Your Good Fortune in the Year of the Fire Rooster 2017

by @elioverbey

 

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One belief about Chinese New Year is that what you do on New Year’s Day sets the tone for your entire year. Do you want more happiness, prosperity, and meaningful relationships. On January 28th do something that makes you feel that way. It is a great way to set the tone for Year of the Fire Rooster. Have fun, laugh, spend time with people that matter to you. Remember your year depends on it. [Read more…]