Here is one question I get asked: Is it destiny or choice? How do my choices impact my destiny, or is there destiny?”
Do you ever wonder if Destiny exists, or is it all about our Choices?
When have you ever asked yourself, “Who Am I?
Why Am I Here? or
What Is The Meaning of Life?
As a high school teacher and later as a coach, I discovered three age groups in which people ask these questions.
The first time is in the teenage years.
“Who am I, and how am I different from my parents? This is a big one; they want to find their own identity. A place where they can plant their flag in the sand and claim who they are.
What am I supposed to do with my life?
What is the meaning of life anyway”?
My whole life is ahead of me, and I can choose what I want to do with it. If I only knew what to do.
While teaching, I noticed that high school students had a zest for life, a search for who they are, and how they fit in with friends, family, and the future. Adults start asking children what they want to be when they grow up. They always have an answer: a fireman, a nurse, a teacher, a magician, or other jobs they see around them.
Teens are on the cusp of adulthood, and the pressure to get an answer is more serious. The journey begins by thinking about what they will do after high school. Will it be college or getting a job? It is a tough choice for many. “What am I going to do after high school?” rises to the top of their mind.
I remember when my 9-year-old son looked at me and asked, “Why am I here? Why was I born?” .
The second time is during the early 40s.
“Who Am I — I am not sure I like who I am becoming. My career is not fulfilling me. Is this all there is?
A coaching client told me he quit his job because he did not like the person he was becoming. He had become driven, competitive, and a workaholic. The most disturbing part of his life is that he was not home enough to connect with his children.
What can I do that will contribute? How can I get more meaning into my life”?
It can be a time of spiritual awakening when one seeks to answer the question, “Why am I here?”
This is more than finding a life purpose. It is a more profound calling from within that will no longer be silent.
The search is on. There has to be a way to make a living, make a difference, and feel fulfilled.
The third time is at retirement. Whatever age that may be.
“Who am I now that I do not have my career?
When people retire, they spend a lot of time in their careers, which has become part of their identity.
I remember the first time I went to a social gathering after I retired as a high school principal, and people asked me what I did for a living(the typical question). I proudly announced that I was retired. It was like I had no value. They nodded and walked away. The conversation ended. I was surprised at the question and how it made me feel. I wondered why I let the question and response make me feel useless. It was because I was trying to answer the question, “Who am I now that I am not a high school principal?”
What is my value without my job? A question every retiree must answer.
I don’t want to sit in a rocking chair and waste away.
What is the meaning of my life now?
I don’t know how much time I have, so I must make it count.
Some give up and sit in that rocking chair. Others reinvent themselves and continue to live vibrant, meaningful lives, contributing and making a difference in others' lives.
I decided to reinvent myself because I still had much to contribute.
What age levels have you experienced?
Are you a teenager, a person in your forties, a retiree, or perhaps you know people who struggle to answer basic life questions? Hopefully, this article has given you insight into your life's journey.
Your destiny is pre-determined and full of choices.
Your gender, ethnicity, eye color, family, and birthplace are pre-determined. You are born with all of those qualities.
You choose your friends, education level, school, life activities, where you live, your career, how you spend your money, your relationships, whether you marry, and how you spend your time.
We always have a choice about how we respond to our circumstances. We see the gifts a challenge brings and the potential for personal growth, or we feel victimized and stuck in a negative cycle.
You have a Destiny Code that reveals your talents, personality traits, areas of challenge, life themes, and areas for growth in this life that can help you unlock your personal Destiny Blueprint. This Destiny Code is pre-determined by your birth information. The time, day, month, and year you were born. When I learned Chinese Astrology (in my Feng Shui Masters Program), I became aware of the destiny code we each carry.
For example, your qualities and characteristics support you in making decisions, choosing careers, deciding where to live, when or if you want to marry, and handling the challenges you face.
No matter your age, I found that throughout life, people of all ages ask these questions: “Who am I?” “Why am I here? “and “What is the meaning of life?”
Nancy Dadami is an Inner Peace Strategist, Intentional Creativity Guide, and Feng Shui Specialist. Her passion is to empower seekers, conscious creators, and entrepreneurs called to expansion, education, and freedom. This results in living the best version of themselves, creating a life of abundance, self-awareness, purpose, and inner peace. https://linktr.ee/nancydadami
