Michelle was in her forties when she felt like she was missing something and realized she was unhappy with her life. She was living the life she dreamed of when she was twenty, and she was disappointed. Michelle had:
- beautiful home on a lot surrounded by nature with a gourmet kitchen and a view of the valley below
- a fulfilling marriage to a man that was her best friend and lover
- two busy teenage children active in sports and school activities. She adored them
- a dog named Barney that ran to greet her every time she came through the front door
But what Michelle didn’t know was that she was stuck in a rut.
Each day was the routine that never varied, she drove the same route to work, ate the same quick meals, and went home to have the same evening schedules and conversations with her family.
She was going through the motions of what she thought was a happy life.
When she overheard someone at work talking about a “growth mindset”, she did a Google search and realized that’s what she’d been missing.
“I was being so careful to do everything right, to color inside the lines. But when I heard about growth mindset, I knew that’s what my life was lacking—growth.
I had stopped trying new things and experimenting.” “My life had become predictable nothing new, no challenges, no expansion, and no passion.
What Is a Growth Mindset?
A growth mindset is the belief that even though you may not have certain qualities, you can develop them through learning and practice. It is seeing your possibilities from a positive perspective.
If you have a growth mindset, you might think things like, “If I practice my painting skills, I can get better at creating art.” Or you might say, “I can learn to meditate if I take a class about it.” Or you sign up for the belly dancing class you always thought about taking.
The beauty of a growth mindset is that it gives you freedom.
You’re free to try new things, experiment, and study the results.
With a growth mindset, the outcome of a situation doesn’t become your identity.
How Can You Lean into a Growth Mindset?
Developing a growth mindset doesn’t mean that you must do something radical like sell all your possessions and move halfway across the world.
A growth mindset is more about staying open to new experiences and new people.
It can be as simple as a willingness to try a hip-hop dance class at your local gym, change your comfortable routines, and seek out new relationships with people who are different from you.
What If You Surprised Yourself?
Michelle surprised herself by signing up for acting classes. She’d always loved musicals and she liked the idea of performing in front of a crowd. So, she gave it a try and found it uplifting.
The classes had a benefit she hadn’t counted on either—increased confidence. She felt bold and empowered again.
This helped her lead more effective presentations at work and within a few months, her boss promoted her.
Of course, not every surprise has been wonderful. Michelle also signed up for a knitting group. “I loved the people there, but I quickly discovered that knitting wasn’t my thing. Still, I’m glad I was willing to give the experience a try.”
How open are you to new experiences and people? Here is something I do each month. Give it a try.:
- get a blank 8 1/2 x 11-inch piece of paper
- place it in front of you in the horizontal position
- make 3 equal columns
- at the top of the first column write What I am Doing
- in the middle column write What I should be Doing
- in the last column write What I want to be Doing
Give yourself some quiet time to write in each column. You will be surprised as you find clarity and awareness about your growth mindset.
A growth mindset is a wonderful way to go through life. It means embracing the unknown and being willing to take risks, even when it feels a little bit scary (and fun!).
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Nancy Dadami is a Flow Specialist, Creatively Fit Coach, and Intuitive, teaching you how to get Better Flow Faster so you can live a life you love.