This is a question I get asked often, “Where is the best place in my home to keep ashes of a deceased pet or person?” Most people are surprised by my answer.
Your home tells a story about you. As a Feng Shui Detective, I read the energy of you, your floor plan, and your space for clues to the problems you are experiencing.
Here is a recent case.
The phone rang it was Kim, asking about possible reasons her house was not selling. There was beauty in every room, the floorplan flowed nicely between rooms, It had been professionally staged, and it had a great area for a home office.
Dozens of people had toured Kim’s house and yet there were no offers. Kim did not want to lower the price again. Real estate was hot in the area and most houses had multiple offers. Why not Kim’s.
I knew it had something to do with the energy flow in her home.
During the consultation, I discovered Kim’s home had areas of yin (slow-moving) energy. Her personal energy was slow-moving too due to her stress and frustration from lookers but no offers on her home.
The detective in me was looking for clues, energy clues to solve this problem. Energy is constantly moving throughout you and your space. The energy keeps moving and must flow smoothly to support your happiness and well-being.
When energy flow slows down or gets stuck you can experience loss of vitality or money, communication problems, illness, or a sense of being blocked from moving forward.
There was too much slow-moving (yin) energy in Kim’s home. I also noticed that her personal energy (chi) was low.
She was selling the home where she raised her children, built a life with her husband, and nursed him through his final days.
Although she wanted to start a new part of her life she was also trying to let go and process the time spent in her home with her family.
It had been ten years since her husband’s passing and Kim kept his ashes in a special place in her home.
Although she wanted to start a new part of her life she was also trying to let go and process the time spent in her home with her family.
Ashes contain no life force energy because the person or pet is not present anymore. Ashes are extremely yin which translates into minimal or no energy movement in the area where they are stored.
Here are some situations I have witnessed with ashes being stored inside the home.
Ashes stored in the wealth area may be experienced as a loss of your resources, few income opportunities, or a fear of not having enough.
When ashes are stored in the health area people have health issues such as depression, diabetes, high blood pressure, or cancer.
Ashes stored in the relationship area of your home may be experienced as an increase in arguing with your partner, trouble communicating with family, and a decrease in desire to socialize.
When you look at the Feng Shui Bagua template you see the nine areas of life and one or more may be impacted by ashes being kept there. The 9 areas are:
- Family
- Wealth
- Reputation
- Relationships
- Children
- Helpful People
- Career, Life Path
- Health
- Self Empowerment/ Knowledge
Back to Kim’s problem of selling her house. She had her husband’s ashes stored in the foyer of her home which was in the career and life path area. Kim was selling her home so she could retire and start a new phase of her life.
The placement of her husband’s ashes was draining the energy of her career and life path area, slowing down her retirement and transition to a new life.
What About My Pet’s Ashes
Cindy had her dog’s ashes next to his picture on her dresser. She had a dog biscuit and his favorite collar by his picture. She looked at him every day and thought about how much she missed him.
The dresser was located in the wealth sector of her bedroom. Yes, pet ashes also slow down the flow of energy in the sector they occupy. This is what she was experiencing. She was an entrepreneur making a good living. Cindy was able to pay for her grandson’s music lessons every month. She also treated herself to a massage twice a month. Cindy was also able to save over a thousand dollars a month.
A year after she put her dog’s ashes on her dresser everything began to change. Her income started slowing down, she was not able to save money anymore, Now, she was dipping into her savings every month and watching it dwindle. She was dreading telling her grandson that could not pay for his music lessons anymore. The massages were gone first and now was feeling fearful, depressed, and desperate.
The placement of her dog’s ashes in the wealth sector was stopping the flow of energy to her wealth. The only movement was draining her resources, leaving her in despair.
Where Should Ashes Be?
The best place to keep ashes is in the cemetery. A cemetery is made to hold slow-moving yin energy, your home is not.
When ashes are kept at the cemetery it creates a special place where you and others can visit and pay respects.
What if you can’t bare the thought of moving your loved one to the cemetery?
You may not be ready take your urn and run to the cemetery and leave your loved one’s ashes there.
You must be ready to move the ashes to the cemetery. There are two points to consider:
- The draining energy of the ashes in your home and areas of your life.
- How the move will impact your feelings of grief, sorrow, or guilt.
Check-in with yourself to decide if you are ready, if you move the ashes before you are emotionally willing you may create anxiety or depression for yourself.
You can move the ashes in stages. First move the ashes out of the house, into the garage, a storage shed, or into a place in the yard. Get used to that placement. When you are prepared, move the ashes to the cemetery.
Kim moved her husband’s ashes to the garage and noticed a change in how the energy of the house felt. Not too long after that, she sold her house.
Cindy took some time to move her dog’s ashes to a place in the backyard and noticed a positive shift in her money flow. Her business is booming again and you guessed it she is able to pay for her grandson’s music lessons again.
A Note About Jewelry and Ashes
There are many companies that make necklaces, bracelets, and pendants to carry the ashes of your loved ones. You know now that ashes slow or stop the flow of energy in the area where they are placed. Would you want to slow down the flow of energy in your body near your heart, throat, chest, or arms? My advice do not wear ashes on your body for any reason.
I get asked this question about the best place to keep ashes often. The answer is always in the cemetery. The reactions to that answer are as unique as each person. Some people are ready to move the ashes and others cry and say “I can’t do that”. It is an emotional decision and each person has their own comfort level and timeline to make the change. That is why I explain how energy works so each person can make the best-informed decision for themselves.
The best place to keep ashes is in the cemetery for your greatest long-term happiness and well-being.
Nancy Dadami is a Flow Recovery Specialist, Feng Shui Expert, and an Artist. She teaches empaths, authors, artists, and healers how to get better flow faster, tap into their inner magnificence and create a life of beauty, self-awareness, and peace of mind.
She teaches creatives, spiritual seekers and small business owners to live in “the flow”, clear their energy field and align their surroundings with their intentions so they create the business and life they love.