Why most people don’t believe they are creative.
They believe it because of their early experiences.
They were compared to others as children.
They were told they were “practical” or “logical,” not “artistic.”
They came to believe creativity was about talent, performance, or special skills.
They learned to be careful. To not make mistakes. To not do things “wrong.”
Creativity gradually became something for others, not them.
And even as you read this, there may be a gentle voice inside that says,
“This sounds lovely… but I’m not sure it applies to me.”
Not because you’re closed, but because you’ve tried before. Or because it feels safer not to expect too much.
So let me name the belief softly:
“I’m not creative.”
And then let me loosen its grip.
Creativity is not about being good.
It’s not about being impressive.
It’s not about having special skills or a certain personality.
Creativity is about being willing.
Willing to explore.
Willing to try.
Willing to begin without needing certainty.
And most of all, it’s about letting yourself be new again.
Not behind.
Not late.
Just new.
I see this so clearly in the people I work with, especially beginners.
Meet Sandy, she believed she wasn't creative
One woman, Sandy, came to me convinced she wasn’t creative. She said it gently, almost apologetically, as if she needed to explain herself before we even began. She wasn’t resistant. She was hopeful. But she carried a quiet belief that this probably wouldn’t open for her the way it seemed to for others.
Sandy had spent her life as a capable, responsible, and practical person. Creativity felt like a world she had missed the doorway to. She told me she just wanted to try, even if nothing came of it.
So we didn’t aim for results.
We didn’t aim for talent.
We didn’t aim for anything impressive.
We aimed for permission.
Permission to play.
Permission to make marks without knowing why.
Permission to explore without a plan.
Permission to be curious instead of correct.
Initially, her movements were cautious. She watched herself closely. She wanted to do it “right.” And then something shifted. Not suddenly. Not dramatically. But gently. Her shoulders softened. Her breath deepened. Her choices became freer.
She wasn’t trying to be creative anymore.
She was simply responding.
And that changed everything.
Sandy didn’t just open creatively. She opened in how she moved through her life. She became more trusting of her instincts. More willing to experiment. More receptive to small joys and quiet nudges. Creativity became less about art and more about living with curiosity and presence.
That is what I mean when I say creativity isn’t something you do.
It’s something you allow.
And if part of you thinks, “That was Sandy. I’m different,”
I want you to know Sandy felt the same way.
What changed her wasn’t talent.
It wasn’t confidence.
She didn’t know what she was doing.
She was giving herself permission to begin without expectations.
So many people tell me, almost in a whisper, “I’m just not creative.”
They present it as if it were decided long ago. And every time, I feel a quiet invitation to remind them: that story was learned. It is not who you are.
Creativity isn’t something you either have or don’t have. It’s a natural way of being human. It’s how you respond to life. It’s how you adapt, imagine, sense, and express.
If you’ve ever found a new way to comfort someone, rearranged a space until it felt better, changed a recipe and made it your own, followed your intuition instead of a rule, or figured something out without instructions, you were being creative. You just didn’t call it that.
Many people think, “But that’s just life.”
Yes. Creativity is life, noticed and honored.
Your brain is already designed for this. It builds connections all day long. When you relax and release the need to be right, those connections open into new ideas.
Creativity grows when pressure is removed, and curiosity is welcomed.
That’s why ideas show up in the shower.
On walks.
While folding laundry or washing dishes.
Your mind softens. And creativity breathes.
Even if you’ve tried slowing down before and didn’t notice much change, that doesn’t mean nothing was happening. Gentle practices work quietly. They build trust with your nervous system. They remind you it’s safe to explore again.
“Creativity grows when you feel safe enough to play.”
One of the simplest ways to invite creativity back is through your daily routines. Not by changing them, but by softening them.
Your morning coffee becomes a small ritual.
Your exercise becomes a listening space.
Your to-do list becomes something written with intention or color.
Not because it has to look beautiful.
But because it feels alive.
Presence is one of the most powerful doorways into creativity. When you slow down and notice, ideas naturally begin to stir.
Notice the texture of what you touch.
The sound in the room.
The way light moves across a wall.
These are not small things. They are invitations.
Challenges are invitations
We often see them as interruptions, and every challenge holds a quiet question:
“What else might be possible here?”
When something doesn’t go as planned, pause and ask, “What could this make space for?”
“What if this isn’t stopping me, but guiding me differently?”
You already know how to do this. Every time you made something work with what you had, you were creating.
And one of my favorite supports for creativity is building an inspiration bank. A place to gather what moves you. A journal, a notes app, a folder of images, scraps of paper. Nothing fancy.
Collect what makes you pause.
What feels warm?
What feels curious?
Think of it as creative compost. Over time, the pieces combine into insight.
Creativity doesn’t ask for brilliance.
It asks for honesty.
It asks for curiosity.
It asks for permission.
You don’t need to feel sure.
You don’t need to feel confident.
You don’t need proof.
You only need openness.
Creativity doesn’t require belief.
It only asks for willingness.
Even the smallest opening is enough.
Creativity isn’t something you earn.
It’s something you return to.
And it’s been waiting for you, gently, without pressure or judgment, all along.
Your Next Action Steps
Creativity doesn’t return through effort or trying harder. It comes back through small moments of openness, through noticing, through allowing yourself to respond instead of perform. You don’t need to decide anything today or become someone new. You’re simply being invited to take a few gentle steps toward what has always been part of you. Let what follows be an offering, not a requirement—small ways to begin listening again.
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Name the belief without arguing with it.
When the thought “I’m not creative” arises, simply notice it. You don’t need to fix it or push it away. Seeing it clearly is already a shift. -
Create one small opening for play.
Choose something simple and low-stakes—doodling, rearranging a space, writing a few words, or mixing colors without a goal. Let curiosity lead instead of outcomes. -
Soften one daily routine.
Bring a touch of presence to something you already do. Notice texture, color, sound, or rhythm. This is creativity in motion. -
Collect what catches your attention.
Start an inspiration bank—a notebook, folder, or notes app. Gather images, phrases, or moments that make you pause. Let it grow naturally. -
Give yourself permission to be new.
You don’t need confidence or clarity to begin. Willingness is enough. Each small moment of openness builds trust in yourself.
Nancy Dadami is a transformative artist, certified Creatively Fit Coach, and Feng Shui expert with a deep passion for blending inner and outer energies to foster personal growth, purpose, and deep peace. Nancy's mission is to empower women in their relationships with themselves, others, and the world. Find out more here.
